At first I
didn’t mind much because I was new and getting my bearings, working, developing
my friend circle, getting to know the culture and all that. But once you get settled and in your
routines, you begin to long for someone special in your life. These are the
guys I dated in Korea and Japan:
The
Nigerian man who hated Korea.
We met up for bagels and tea in Itaewon.
He’d graduated from a Korean university and spoke fluent Korean, but
hated everything about the country. He
spent the entire date bashing Korea and its people. While I agreed that Korean thinking can be
backwards and their ways of doing things illogical, he made a poor first
impression. He should have saved the
ranting for when we knew each other better.
Nobody enjoys spending time with a Negative Nelly. He later moved to Japan. When I also moved there, I didn’t let him
know. Based on posts he’s made on a
Facebook group we both belong to, I think he likes Japan better than Korea.
*The Korean
man who wanted me to break the law.
We had lunch at a nice buffet restaurant in Cheongnyangni. Conversation
was comfortable and pleasant. Afterward
we texted each other a few times. We
both looked forward to meeting again.
Then he told me that he had a friend who lived near me who needed a
private English teacher. Could he pass my number on to him? I told him that Korean immigration laws do
not allow for side jobs. Your visa is
exclusively tied to your job. “He can
pay any price you ask,” he said. I
thanked him for the offer, but I didn’t want to jeopardize my legal
status. That was our last
conversation. He ghosted me. Ghosting is super-common among younger Koreans
because it avoids conflict and requires no social skills. It’s irritating, however, when grown-ass
adults in their 30s and 40s are still employing that cowardly practice. It could also be that he was embarrassed for asking me to do something illegal, but, get over it, nobody ever died of embarrassment.
*The Angolan
who wanted a hip hop girl. We had
Mexican food on our date. We’d met in my
kizomba class. He was an employee at the
Angolan embassy. He was alright, but I
think his idea of a Black woman from the U.S. was strongly informed by rap
videos. I did not fit the image of the
hiphop girl he’d hoped for. I ran into
him a dance class a few times after that.
He greeted me without being awkward, and even asked me to dance.
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