In the U.S.,
my personal and professional lives were two separate worlds. My colleagues were simply the people I worked
with 7:30-3:30 or whenever it was that I left school. I could count one hand how many were
considered friends that I might spend time with outside of work and have
fingers left over. “Familiarity breeds
contempt,” Ms. James, an English teacher at the high school I’d taught at as a
first year teacher, had said. She was
referring to relationships between students and teachers, but it also applies
to those with co-workers.
I remember
attending a Christmas party for the television station where I’d done my senior
internship. It was open bar. I was so embarrassed by the antics of my drunk
co-workers. A male stripper had also been
hired as a special surprise for one of the female colleagues who was leaving
the company soon. I was mortified by
that spectacle too. It wouldn’t have
been so bad if the guy had been a good dancer, but gyrating his skinny
g-stringed ass to crappy music on a boom box was so unsexy and
cringe-inducing. That did it for
me. I didn’t want to witness co-workers
getting drunk.
My first job
in Korea was at a church-affiliated hakwon chain, so their gatherings were
strictly food----no alcohol. However,
that lost its appeal when I realized that since it was all paid for by the
director, he saw it fit to hold us hostage and sermonize us at length about I
don’t know what. The Korean teachers
thought it was a good tradeoff. I
would’ve preferred to eat something I cooked.
One time I got brave enough to excuse myself, jump on a bus and go back
home. They were shocked I hadn’t stayed and shocked I had already figured out
the bus system (I’d only been in the country for three months at the point).
Korean Job
Two: I was working at an English village
with mostly Westerners, so their parties were a mix of food and drink. Although many were recent uni grads, and too
enthusiastic about getting plastered, those outings weren’t so bad as long as
nobody touched me. (One white South African
thought he could take liberties after he’d had a few beers.) In fact, one co-worker would often buy me soft
drinks and say to everyone “Monica is so cool, she doesn’t drink, but she can
still hang out with us, and doesn’t act like she’s better than us like the rest
of those snobbish Christians.”
He was
referring to the international school that was renting a building on campus
(where I would later work). It was run
by an American fundamentalist ‘Christian’ couple who acted like they were too
good to socialize with the heathens on campus.
Better a sincere heathen than an insincere Bible-thumper, I say.
The
international school’s get-togethers were all about food, since the staff
didn’t drink (publicly, anyway). The
meals were paid for out of some school fund.
Those dinners became joyless, however, as the administrators’ toxicity
became more evident. As Proverbs 17:1
says, “Better to eat a dry crust of bread in peace than a feast in a house full
of trouble.”
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